3 easy ways to tackle problems

Problems, hardships or tensions have become an important part of our lives. Whether intentionally or unintentionally they get created, take up our energy physical, emotional or mental and leave us with a miserable experience. Problems can not be avoided but yes they can be tackle in a way to overcome them wisely and to lessen the negative aspects, by developing positive approaches about it.

Usually one problem becomes a source of invitation for other, because of offensive, impatient and negative behavior of us. Like everyone, I also took problems as something bad and troublesome, it's a common thinking and I must say a way of thinking that we have adopted. Just thinking about problems push us into miserable thoughts and we start longing to find answers of these questions"

Can we avoid problems?
Is there any way to live problems free life?
How to tackle problems?

Problems are inevitable, as life has ups and downs, but we can lessen the negative aspects of them and enhance and develop some positive things which keeps us better emotionally, physically and mentally while tackling them. I have tried and experience some aspects which can help to tackle problems and to avoid welcoming more.

1. Overcoming Fear: we are spending fearful life, fear of failures, hardships, problems, height, and most importantly of future. The problems are not so scary and terrible but our fear makes them so. Fear of not getting into a problem and not getting out of the problem makes the situation worse. The first thing we should learn is to overcome the fear of  problems. How can we do that? By taking problems as normal thing and a reality of life. Remember every problem has a solution, but fear overcomes the ability to think or find the solution and ultimately create a miserable condition. It's all because we always take problem as negative so it's time to change our thinking.

2.Change thinking: it's time to change our general notion about problems. We associate every negative thing with problems, but in fact they come our way to make us learn something so that we can realize and enhance our abilities. Whenever we get into problem, we should try to see that what we can learn from it. Always see the problems with an eye of learner and try to discover something new and productive.

3.Develop Patience: Be patient, haste makes nothing but yes it can increase the intensity of the problem and invite some more. Mostly we made the situation worse, because we are impatient. We want to be out of the problem quickly and for it we take every wrong step, which gains nothing but more miseries. Remember, problems are like a spider web, the more we made quick efforts the more easily we get stuck in it. So, the only key to be out of problem is to be patient and take time to analyze and think about it. There is always a hidden door to outside, but it depends on us how wisely we use our efforts and energy to find it.

Build a positive Relationship with failures

Have you ever heard that anybody has learnt from his success?

Is this success or the failure which makes you learn?

Is failure has any positive aspect or not?

These are the questions that make us think that failure is also worthwhile like we perceive our successes. We just need to change the negative notions linked with the failures. Many people when get fail in anything, they just give up or feel so depressed that other people have no choice other than consoling them with such sentences, “oh that poor guy or lady, missed out that chance”. So like this they just become the focus of pity, sympathy or lots of criticism from other people, its just because they take their failures as some negative or undesirable thing, that should must be avoided in order to feel happy or comfortable.

We need to build our relationship with our failures as they can proved to be very best and influential teachers to us, only if we understand them, respect them and open ourselves to them for learning what they want us to learn. Every failure is like a teacher, which teaches us new lesson; it’s just how much keenness you have for learning new things new lessons in your life and how much a good learner you are.

We come up with so much heartache and disappointment when we get fail, rather if we get connected to our failures, respect them and appreciate them, I bet they will turn out to be blessing for you that you can never forget in your life, which will fill your life with everlasting joy and tremendous series of victories that you have ever dreamt of, it’s just the matter of changing your notion about failures.

And if you don’t build relationship with your failures, you don’t understand, appreciate and welcome them with a fearless heart and don’t respect them; they will keep on haunting you and will continue to perish your strength, energy and time, until you get taught what they wanted to teach you. So be an obedient student and let your teacher (failure) teach you the most worthy lessons, which you would surely miss, in case you get succeed in the first attempt. The more you fail, the more you encounter your teacher (failure) and the more you learn, it’s just because this fact we can find so many big names that made a history.

So, don’t let your failures haunt you, take them lightly and always appreciate your failures, because 

“Failing is a learning process and learning is a success process, this all process is much bigger and richer than the actual success”.

Game Of Life

Life is much similar to a game, in which levels or stages are like life lessons (contain many things to learn, to explore and practice). You have got to clear the primary level in order to reach for the next one and this goes on, if you do not clear the first or primary level it keeps on repeating itself until you get a mastery over it and clear it despite many hardships and puzzled phases, just then it presents you with a new level (lesson). The higher levels keep locked until you have cleared the primary ones, you can revisit or play again the levels which you have already cleared or attempted but you can not jump to the higher locked levels. So like this in life its must to face every hardship in order to make the maximum points (maximum learning) and successful completion of that particular level or lesson of life, otherwise you will keep on hanging just there.

When you successfully complete your present level, the next level automatically get unlocked and presents you with new things to explore, to experience and like this game goes on and on, and offers you with many stumbling blocks and new complexities for pushing you towards the mastery level or big lessons of life. Each phase or situation of life like the levels of game has its own complexity, its own requirement of skills, its own buttons to press and different tools to be employed, some requires more skillful, mindful and backbreaking play while some requires just a relax play with not much mental workout.

Once when you reach the mastery level, then on looking back (flashback) you will find the game as easy as ABC. You find yourself as a more confident, skillful and a well learned person. You feel the confidence of mastery over the whole game, there are no more any hard levels for you( even if you just have cleared 2 or 3 levels by facing every difficulty that you encountered during the game), for you have surpassed all of them. Then just mastery and a sense of effortlessness prevail throughout the game. Play every level of your life with courage and persistence, without resisting the difficulties, face the difficulties in their face; you will surely get promoted to the next one and in the end come out to be a master.

But in all such play of your life, make sure that you not only clear the levels but also enjoy the whole game, for boredom drains out the energy required for a contented and true play.

Have a wonderful play ahead!