How to build up self confidence part 2:

Last time, we learnt the techniques to improve the self image to boost up the Self Confidence. Now, I want to share some more helpful methods to gradually build up the self confidence. These techniques helped me a lot and are still helping me to increase the level of self confidence and are making me able to perform or accomplish my duties effectively.

1. Self affirmations:

We gather lots of negative thoughts in our minds, which increase the fear and not let us to be confident enough to accomplish any task or to make any decision. So, first of all we have to push back these negative thoughts and have to develop some positive notions. Self affirmations are useful for it. Make a list of some positive self affirmations and read them or repeat them to yourself daily or when you feel down, it will just take your two minutes. Some of them which are quite effective and I mostly use are as follows:

If it’s a hard time, no worries I can find a way.

I can make the things better.

I am able to perform this task.

It’s not that much difficult, with my effort I can do it.

I can win, nothing is impossible.

I am a strong person.

I am not alone, everybody is with me.

God is with me, nobody can harm me.

If it did not turn out to be good for me, no worries next time I will do it well.

It’s not the last opportunity for me, so I will try again and never give up.

If I get fail this time, no worries I will do more hard work and perform better next time.

I am a blessed person, beautiful and pretty being having all the abilities and I will use these abilities to make the things better.

2. Mirror Talk:

Sometimes, we hesitate to talk to others especially the unfamiliar persons and mostly in front of crowd. The best way to overcome this hesitation is to talk to your self by standing in front of the mirror. Say whatever you want to say. Practicing this technique daily for 10 minutes will build up the self confidence and enable you to talk confidently and will make your personality more charming and attractive. So, stand in front of the mirror, consider your reflection in the mirror as another person and practice to talk confidently.

3. Playing Games:

Achievements are very effective to boost up the self confidence. When you achieve something, your self belief arouses and in turn boosts up your confidence level. Whether the achievements are little or big, but they are important because you get assured that you are something and you can do something. If you do not have any task at hand to achieve anything then don’t get worry play the games. Computer games, any sport and you can even play games in your cell phone. Believe me, they will make you learn and will also boost up your self confidence. When you complete one level and move to other, you feel yourself more pleasant from inside. Why? It’s because you get the feeling that you have achieved something. So, play the games and after accomplishment of each level you will surely feel yourself more confident.

4. Learning:

Last but not the least important thing is learning. Do not try anything to be always successful but try the things to learn something. If you long for getting success then after failure you will get hurt from inside completely, but if you try something to learn from it then this learning will make you feel that you have achieved the thing that you want, even if you didn’t get success. This thing will never let you down and you feel energetic to work again.

I hope these simple strategies will help you to build up the self confidence and will help you make your life better.

Enjoy the every moment of your life and learn from it :)

Be self Motivated!

2 Things You must Learn to Start the Transformation Journey

Many of the beginners who want to change their behaviors for good, encounter the questions like how should we start the transformation process? What we should change first? what should be the strategy to initiate the change process? these all and many more, I encountered myself when I decided to transform myself into a new positive being, at that time I was so confused by the stuff I had in my mind about starting the transformation process, I started with the wrong things and end up in wasting my energy and time. So for your convenience I am gonna tell you the best strategy and ways to enter into the change process without losing your precious time and energy. These will not only help you in the beginning process but also through out the process and also will assist you to get hold of your goals and pursue them with full energy and passion.

1. Learn to focus:
Many of the beginners come this way, without learning the ways to get the proper focus, which is required for the whole process of transforming oneself into a new better being. Just because of lacking the focus power, they get distracted from their goals and this thing sucks up their energy and time. So beginning the journey of transformation by learning focus, serves a great benefit to a beginner through out the process. When I was beginning my transformation process, I was not aware of this fact, thus I got distracted many times and faced many hardships just because of lacking the power to focus on the task. Later on, eventually I got to know this through my experiences and I worked on it and I made it by the breathing and counting techniques together with some games that I had chosen to play on my cell phone.

2. Boost up your self confidence:
Another thing to do just in the initial stage of your change process is boosting up your self confidence.You may have heard or read this saying that self-confidence is the first requisite for great undertakings, I found this saying so true, when I started my journey , I had not much self-confidence so I often used to feel myself incapable of taking any decision or creating a change within myself. So this lack of self-confidence also caused me to give up many times. Later, on my self-analysis I found this very reason behind being unsuccessful in pursuing my goals and initiating my transformation process. I worked on this  too and boosted up my self-confidence by self created technique of playing games. I used  to play games and tried to face all the hurdles in the game, played the stages which I used to think I could not play, I failed but kept on trying and whenever I won any game it improved my self confidence, though it sounds a bit impractical but it really worked for me,  you can also try this or make your own ways for boosting up your confidence. Another thing that I did to improve my self-confidence is, I started doing those little works myself, for which I used to depend on others, this thing made me feel more capable and in turn boosted up my self-confidence.

If you learn these two things in just the beginning of your journey, I bet you will have a very successful journey and it will help you a lot doing and gaining the things that you really want and deserve.
Have a blissful journey :)

Be Committed and focused! Learn from Cat

The concentration, focus and commitment makes all it together to accomplish any work or project with desirable outcomes. The noise, hurriedness and busyness created a huge trap to render the minds and ultimately decreases the capacity and capability of Human minds to create or to do anything with ease. We all are facing the same scenario and weakness, as we are losing power to concentrate and focus fully on one task. Many questions arise in my mind maybe some are same in yours as well like:

How can we acquire this lost power?
are we able to achieve it back or not?
will it need any practice?
How to enhance our ability to focus fully?

Well, a simple answer to all question is yes, we can acquire and enhance this power by just simple practices, about which we talk shortly. I have never seen somebody focused, concentrated and committed as powerfully as a cat do. Cats are amazing in their ability to focus on the task at hand, if you have any cat pet then you can observe it as well. When they are chasing any mouse or catching any insect, their focus is fully committed to it even if you want to interrupt them, they will ignore you and keep their focus on the task. I wonder how can cats achieve such a great concentration? What's the secret behind it? that's simply made me Wow!The secret is meditation. The cats are good meditator, when they are sitting idle they don't waste their single moment and keep them busy in meditation, closing their eyes, focusing on their thinking and constant practice makes them a good focused being.

Everything is achievable, but just need a constant practice and patience. Here I am going to share some smart tricks to achieve back the good concentration and focus. Practice them and keep the record of your progress and check them day by day after a month you will really feel a great difference.

1.Meditation: Meditating just 10 minute a day helps you keep your mind active and focus. It calms down the rushing and running thoughts and makes you able to control the flow of thoughts. So get control over your thoughts and also achieve good focus and peace of mind.

2.Counting: Counting is another good technique to improve focus on the task at hand. It's best to count back from 100 to 1 like 100,99,98,... so on daily.Each day increase the counting range and write down your progress that how much you did with full focus.

3.Playing Games: Playing games also helps to improve the focus and concentration especially the racing games. There are also many games available especially to improve concentration and focus, get one and enjoy game + improve you abilities.

4.Thinking: Thinking about one thing deeply or ponder over little things helps to keep your focus alive. Take one thing at a time and think about it from all aspects.

5.Imagination: Imagination helps to completely dissolve into thoughts and remain committed to one thing at a time. For some it becomes easy to learn or focus over things by imagining them. It keeps the thought centered, focused and controlled.It acts same like meditation.

6.Motivation: If you feel lazy in performing above task and feel it difficult to achieve your focus back then simply remember if a cat can achieve a good concentration and focus then how couldn't you? nothing is impossible and difficult remember it's our thinking which made it difficult. If you think you can then you can achieve it. Start from little and try to increase it each day, but be consistent in whatever you do.

Build a positive Relationship with failures

Have you ever heard that anybody has learnt from his success?

Is this success or the failure which makes you learn?

Is failure has any positive aspect or not?

These are the questions that make us think that failure is also worthwhile like we perceive our successes. We just need to change the negative notions linked with the failures. Many people when get fail in anything, they just give up or feel so depressed that other people have no choice other than consoling them with such sentences, “oh that poor guy or lady, missed out that chance”. So like this they just become the focus of pity, sympathy or lots of criticism from other people, its just because they take their failures as some negative or undesirable thing, that should must be avoided in order to feel happy or comfortable.

We need to build our relationship with our failures as they can proved to be very best and influential teachers to us, only if we understand them, respect them and open ourselves to them for learning what they want us to learn. Every failure is like a teacher, which teaches us new lesson; it’s just how much keenness you have for learning new things new lessons in your life and how much a good learner you are.

We come up with so much heartache and disappointment when we get fail, rather if we get connected to our failures, respect them and appreciate them, I bet they will turn out to be blessing for you that you can never forget in your life, which will fill your life with everlasting joy and tremendous series of victories that you have ever dreamt of, it’s just the matter of changing your notion about failures.

And if you don’t build relationship with your failures, you don’t understand, appreciate and welcome them with a fearless heart and don’t respect them; they will keep on haunting you and will continue to perish your strength, energy and time, until you get taught what they wanted to teach you. So be an obedient student and let your teacher (failure) teach you the most worthy lessons, which you would surely miss, in case you get succeed in the first attempt. The more you fail, the more you encounter your teacher (failure) and the more you learn, it’s just because this fact we can find so many big names that made a history.

So, don’t let your failures haunt you, take them lightly and always appreciate your failures, because 

“Failing is a learning process and learning is a success process, this all process is much bigger and richer than the actual success”.

Game Of Life

Life is much similar to a game, in which levels or stages are like life lessons (contain many things to learn, to explore and practice). You have got to clear the primary level in order to reach for the next one and this goes on, if you do not clear the first or primary level it keeps on repeating itself until you get a mastery over it and clear it despite many hardships and puzzled phases, just then it presents you with a new level (lesson). The higher levels keep locked until you have cleared the primary ones, you can revisit or play again the levels which you have already cleared or attempted but you can not jump to the higher locked levels. So like this in life its must to face every hardship in order to make the maximum points (maximum learning) and successful completion of that particular level or lesson of life, otherwise you will keep on hanging just there.

When you successfully complete your present level, the next level automatically get unlocked and presents you with new things to explore, to experience and like this game goes on and on, and offers you with many stumbling blocks and new complexities for pushing you towards the mastery level or big lessons of life. Each phase or situation of life like the levels of game has its own complexity, its own requirement of skills, its own buttons to press and different tools to be employed, some requires more skillful, mindful and backbreaking play while some requires just a relax play with not much mental workout.

Once when you reach the mastery level, then on looking back (flashback) you will find the game as easy as ABC. You find yourself as a more confident, skillful and a well learned person. You feel the confidence of mastery over the whole game, there are no more any hard levels for you( even if you just have cleared 2 or 3 levels by facing every difficulty that you encountered during the game), for you have surpassed all of them. Then just mastery and a sense of effortlessness prevail throughout the game. Play every level of your life with courage and persistence, without resisting the difficulties, face the difficulties in their face; you will surely get promoted to the next one and in the end come out to be a master.

But in all such play of your life, make sure that you not only clear the levels but also enjoy the whole game, for boredom drains out the energy required for a contented and true play.

Have a wonderful play ahead!